Controlling Anger

For a decade or so, I have been making a living doling out ways for people to control their anger. Myself, I find it becoming more and more challenging to come up with solutions when I am having my own difficulty steming my own frustrations with our poltical climate and non-productive congress. The seemingly child like attitudes of both sides of the aisle are getting to be more and more disheartening. On a trip to Canada, while seeking opinions on Victoria hotels, I noticed that if I had to depend on making a living on western Canadians controlling their anger, I’d be homeless. These people must be fed “pleasant” pills in their daily diets. Bless them.

I had this weird notion that the very first person to ever use acupuncture saw the needles as a way to control his anger. He figured if he could shove a needle into his advisary, he might get the point (no pun intended) ( actually it is a pun). As time went on, the benefits of these fine needles became obvious to the right person and a science was born. I know the practice didn’t start in Canada but is while receiving acupuncture in Edmonton that I had my first exposure to this incredible technique. If anyone is the slightest bit skeptical and requires testimony to assure them, here I am.

Please don’t get me going all over again. Just when I was simmering down over the fact that infinite banking was swept under our rugs, I hear about how well one of my associates has done with it. I guess I should get off my duff and do something about it instead of my internal weeping over it. The opportunity is there and those of us that don’t act, can no longer complain. The bank won’t open itself, we have to take the initiative to do it. I am told that the Personal Equity Institute is a great company to take direction from.

When I hear about an apparatus like a scope mount, it brings to mind that terrible day in history when JFK was gunned down from the infamous book depository in Dallas. America has seen few more devastating days. I actually feel the anger welling up in me when my mind gets frustrated with all the different takes on the murder that are spun over the decades since. The heart wrenching scenes of Jackie and their children will remain indelible in my mind forever. I must admit that the sorrow has overshadowed the anger, but I will perpetually remain considerably angry over that most horrible of incidents.

Never, ever in our lives should we allow anger to prevail over our good judgement and that which we know to be the right thing to do. I was shocked while viewing this Burnaby condo I was considering purchasing when this, putting it kindly, imbalanced woman took a possessive stand and practically pushed me out of the unit claiming it to be hers. The ridiculous part was that it was the model and not even for sale. She later said that she thought the unit was for sale and she felt threatened by my interest in it. It was all I could do to restrain myself from getting physical with her. But, to my credit, I acted up to my own standards and kept control.

Some people, the ethnicity will remain unexposed, have a severly difficult time making compromise. Flexibility is not in their vocabulary. When situations arise where opinions are requested, they wholeheartedly and honestly give their input. The problem is that once they give that opinion, it is etched in stone and they will not bend in any way. Such was the case in a friend’s wedding planning. Everything was moving along when the future bride’s sister insisted that there be a change in the agreed upon wedding decorations. The soon to be bride went along with the change. The up coming groom became irate to a point of exhibiting totally out of control behavior. He stonewalled the whole new concept. His exposing such an unreasonable reaction caused the cancellation of the wedding. Fortunately, she saw the writing on the wall and opted to forego that type of future.

It isn’t every day you witness a brawl over the choice in wedding cake toppers. Such was the case last month at this seemingly civil wedding reception I was attending. The problem arose when at the bakery where the cake was ordered, the couple had a friend there who was the decorator of the cake. He was somewhat of a jokester and found it amusing to over emphasize the brides rather prominent rear end on the cake topper. She was so totally humiliated that the best man threw a punch at the unsuspecting baker and all bedlam broke out. It ended with the baker wearing the cake and the guests going without dessert.

It wouldn’t hurt any of us to follow the example of the pluripotent stem cells they use in the stem cell research labs. It may be dangerous to be a jack of all trades and a master of none. But I think it is a lot worse to be a master of one and totally oblivious to all others. One pointedness, to me, is the single biggest deterent to a healthy relationship. Flexibility is vital to people getting along. Very often there is a reason arguements occur and that is that one side, or the other, or both will stubbornly hold fast even when their point is wavering.

Walk into any medical research lab and you will discover that the most common thing you will see in each and every one of them will be procedure rules. From dealing with regulatory T cells procedures to sweeping the area, you will see there is a methodology to everything. The work they are doing is so exact and crucial that all these rules must be followed to assure consistency. It makes me angry to see the haphazard things that go on in our government and the lack of control at the helm.
Government would do itself a great justice if it were to mimic the procedures in the private world of business.

The world is full of situations that make us upset to the point of frustration and sometimes pure anger. On the other hand this anger almost, if not always, never gets us anywhere. If every researcher in every lab through up his hans in anger, nothing would ever be discovered. Perserverance will always win out over anger. If something isn’t working, it must be fixed. When it was discovered that T cells were a key to treating autoimmune diseases, there were endless trials and errors before the proper usage was determined. All good things are worth working for.